"Equanimity arises from the power of observation — the ability to see without being caught by what we see.

We might understand this as “seeing with understanding.”

As a form of equanimity, this “being in the middle” refers to balance, to remaining centered in the middle of whatever is happening.

A simple definition of equanimity is the capacity to not be caught up with what happens to us. We can practice with equanimity by studying the ways that we get caught. Instead of pursuing the ideal of balance and nonreactivity directly, we can give careful attention to how balance is lost and how reactivity is triggered."

A perfect balance - Tricycle: The Buddhist Review - Winter 2005

"Self, in other words, is a projection of ownership onto all experience (this is my body, these are my feelings, perceptions, formations, and this is my consciousness). The five aggregates really do occur—that is not in question. They just don’t belong to me. Experience occurs, but the person who owns it is a fictitious construction.

If the self is so simply created, it is just as simply abandoned. In the same text, the Buddha says that there is a practical way leading to the cessation of the view of self as a really existing entity: regard the aggregates as “this is not mine, this I am not, this is not my self.”

The self attitude causes suffering, the nonself attitude does not. It is as straightforward as that."

I think I am - Tricycle: The Buddhist Review - Spring 2010